Why 2024 Almost Broke Me—and How the 10 Disciplines Helped Me Rebuild

December 31, 2024

Are you stepping into 2025 with the clarity, energy, and peace you hoped for at this time last year? Or does it feel like you’ve been sprinting on a treadmill—moving fast, but never really getting anywhere?
New Year’s Eve always feels like a moment to pause, doesn’t it? A moment to look back at the last 12 months, to celebrate the wins, mourn the losses, and ask ourselves if we’re on the right path.

The High: A Dream Come True on Stage

Back in the spring, I had one of the proudest moments of my career— I was the opening keynote speaker at the EOS Conference . Standing on that stage, speaking to thousands of visionary entrepreneurs, felt like the culmination of years of hard work, sacrifice, and a relentless drive to build something meaningful.
Shortly after, I found myself sharing a meal with Gary Vaynerchuk at his New York City restaurant, doing what Gary calls "caviar bumps," laughing, celebrating, and soaking in the energy of a life that felt like it was firing on all cylinders.
If you had asked me then, I would have told you I was living the dream. But life has a way of humbling us when we least expect it.

The Low: The Storm in Late August

Fast forward to late August , and it felt like everything came crashing down. Drama erupted in my industry. People I considered friends turned their backs on me. Some actively tried to cancel me.

I felt betrayed, hurt, and isolated. It wasn’t just my reputation on the line—it was my identity, my purpose, and my place in a community I had poured so much of my life into.

I’d love to tell you I handled it gracefully from day one. But the truth is, I was shaken to my core. This was one of those moments where everything you believe about yourself and your path gets tested. And yet, through the chaos, something incredible happened.

The Tools That Got Me Through:
The 10 Disciplines and the 3 Discoveries

If you’ve been following my journey, you know I’ve been a student of Gino Wickman’s work for years— Rocket Fuel , The EOS Life , and most recently, Shine , which he co-authored with Rob Dube .

When Shine came out this year, it felt like everything clicked. The 10 Disciplines —which had been tucked away at the end of The EOS Life —were suddenly brought to life with vibrant clarity and depth.

And then there were the 3 Discoveries: 1. I am Driven. 2. All Decisions are Made from Fear or Love. 3. You Can Be Driven and Have Peace.

These weren’t just nice-sounding principles—they were lifelines. In the middle of my storm, I leaned into this book. I leaned into the group coaching I had started over the summer with the 10 Disciplines program . I leaned into the conversations I was having with other visionaries who understood the struggle.

And somehow, through the noise, I started to hear the stillness again.


The 10 Disciplines That Changed Everything

Here are the 10 Disciplines for Managing and Maximizing Your Energy:

1. 10-Year Thinking – Make decisions with a long-term mindset. 2. Take Time Off – Regularly pause to gain clarity and focus. 3. Know Thyself – Understand your true self and your unique abilities. 4. Be Still – Find stillness daily to listen to your inner voice. 5. Know Your 100% – Understand your energy capacity and honor it. 6. Say No… Often – Protect your time and energy by setting boundaries. 7. Don’t Do $25-an-Hour Work – Focus on the work only you can do. 8. Prepare Every Night – Set intentions and prepare for the next day. 9. Put Everything in One Place – Organize your tasks and systems. 10. Be Humble – Stay grounded, grateful, and open to growth.

These disciplines became the guideposts I clung to during the hardest season of my life.

A Coffee with Gino—and a Renewed Purpose

It’s Not About Hustle—It’s About Amplification

For most of my life, I thought success meant grinding harder, scaling faster, and hitting bigger goals….climbing the mountain (Hint: there is no mountain it is all just a journey)

10X. 100X.

But what I’ve learned this year is that hustle without alignment leads to burnout.

And here’s the thing: Gino and I aren’t saying you shouldn’t aim for big things.

In fact, we believe something even bigger—we believe that if you have peace and you have drive (because drive isn’t something you can acquire—it’s something you’re born with), you can achieve 1,000X.

When you have clarity, energy, and peace, everything else gets better:

● Your business grows. ● Your relationships deepen. ● Your health improves.

You become a better leader, a better spouse, a better parent, and—most importantly—a better version of yourself.

Take the True Self Assessment

As we step into 2025, I want to offer you something simple but powerful: a chance to pause, reflect, and take a step toward clarity.

The True Self Assessment is a free tool that helps you understand where you are today—where you’re aligned, where you’re off track, and where you have an opportunity to grow.

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When you’re done, let’s talk. I want you to email me and let me know which area in your life you will be working on in 2025. For me it is #4 Be Still 

Free Shine Book Giveaway

I’d also love to send you a copy of Shine to kickstart your journey into the 10 Disciplines.
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Listen to Podcast with Gino Wickman

Listen to the episode where me and Gino talk about the 3 discoveries.  
Here’s to a year of clarity, growth, and freedom. Happy New Year.

– Benny

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