START THE LIFE DESIGN
I've sat across from a lot of business owners who are working toward an exit.
The number is getting closer. The conversations with advisors have started. Maybe a broker has taken a look. The team is running smoothly, the margins are solid, and for the first time in years, the business doesn't need the owner to be there every day. On paper, everything looks like a win.
But somewhere in those conversations, there's a moment. It's different every time but I always recognize it. The owner gets quiet for a beat. And when they speak again, they ask some version of the same question:
"So what do I do after?"
Not what do I invest in. Not where do I park the money. What do I do. Who am I. What is the point of waking up on a Tuesday morning when the business isn't waiting for me anymore.
That question almost never gets prepared for. And when the exit closes without an answer to it, the money doesn't fill the space.
WHAT THE BUSINESS WAS COVERING
Here's something I've observed. For most founders, the business is more than a vehicle for income. It's identity. Structure. Community. Purpose. The reason you get up that doesn't feel like it needs to be explained. When that's gone, the gap is real.
I watched a man sell a roofing company he had built for 22 years. He had planned the financial side carefully. The books were clean. But six months later, he told me it was the loneliest period of his life. Not because the deal was bad. Because he had spent 22 years being somebody, then signed a document that changed that, without building anything to step into.
The exit didn't answer the life question. He had never even asked it.
START THE LIFE DESIGN BEFORE THE LOI
If you are thinking about an exit, whether it's five years out or eighteen months, the work I want to encourage you to start now is not just financial. It's life design.
What does health look like for you when you're not carrying a business? What relationships have you deferred that you want to invest in? What do you want to learn, build, experience? What does service look like when you're not measuring it by revenue? What role does faith play in how you structure your days?
These are not soft questions. They are some of the hardest ones I know. Most people avoid them because the business is easier to run than a life is to design.
But founders who think about this early show up differently in the exit process itself. They're less desperate. They have clearer perspective on what they actually need from the deal. And they carry peace into negotiations that a lot of sellers lose the moment urgency sets in.
THE BUSINESS IS PART OF THE STORY
This is what I want to leave you with. The business you built is real. The sacrifice, the risk, the late nights, the leadership decisions, the growth. All of it is real. And an exit can be a beautiful chapter. But it is a chapter. Not the whole book.
The person you are becoming, the relationships you are building, the way you want to live on the other side, those things don't sort themselves out after the wire transfer. They need attention now, while you still have the energy and the clarity to do something about them.
So if you're on the path to an exit, I want to ask you one question.
Outside of the business, what are you building yourself into?
Because the company can get sold. Your story has to keep going.
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